Every man wants to be great in bed. Every man wants their lover to roll over after sex and say "that was the best sex I've ever had!" After all, we can make a competition out of anything... though being a great lover is a competition where everybody wins.
So what makes a man a great lover? Two things I believe.
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"Thing" Number One
The first, and perhaps most obvious, is your knowledge and understanding of the female body. Let's face it... it's hard to excel at anything if you don't know how to use the equipment. The good news is practicing on the equipment is a lot of fun!
It's also fairly easy to learn to stimulate the 12 female erogenous zones, the clitoris, and even the g-spot. All it takes is the right information and a little bit of practice.
However, right now, I want to get into what I think is even more important in the bedroom. You see, most guys will learn the above and become a good lover. The problem is, without the second part... they will never become a great lover.
"Thing" Number Two
So what is this mysterious second step?
Well I'd like to say it's simple... but it's really the most complicated and misunderstood thing that man has ever tried to comprehend...
... The female mind.
The sad truth is if you can't turn on a woman's mind, you'll never be a great lover. Most men miss just how important and profound this point is. They think to themselves, "Yeah, yeah... how hard can it be?"
But instead, think about all the little misunderstandings and miscommunication you've ever had with women... if you're anything like me you're probably easily up into the thousands.
Now take those misunderstandings and imagine just how many you may have had during sex that you never even knew about... after all... she said she was "fine!"
During sex we are all at our most vulnerable, naked, and primitive animal level. In this state it's easy to see how one little hiccup could ruin a perfectly good night.
Even worse, you might not even realise the night's been ruined... you might not even realise every night has been substandard in her eyes. After all, would a woman who cared about you ever come out and tell you that you weren't the best she'd ever had? That your sex life was lacking? That you were bad in bed?
Most women wouldn't say a word if they were unsatisfied. And unfortunately, even women who orgasm on a regular basis may still be unsatisfied in bed. Why else would they "joke" about being able to stop having sex after marriage?
Ok... enough doom and gloom. There's an obvious and easy way to ensure this never happens to you. Simply learn how to arouse a woman's mind as well as her body.
So How Do You Arouse a Woman's Mind?
Without turning this article into a book... here are some quick tips:
- Make love to her, not just her body Show your lover that you appreciate her and she can trust you. Tell her she's beautiful and make her feel as comfortable and sexy as possible.
- Tease and titillate her Arousal is a process, not a destination. You need to make your way slowly towards the goal while keeping her guessing about what's coming next.
- Take your time A woman takes 20 to 30 minutes to become aroused so you need to take 20 to 30 minutes to arouse her. Foreplay is not something women invented because they like kissing... without it they simply can't enjoy sex and it can even be painful.
- Let her fantasise Place arousing thoughts in your lover's mind first thing in the morning she'll spend the whole day fantasising about what's going to happen. Do you think she might be a little aroused by the time she gets home?
Arousing a woman's mind to its utmost level can be tricky business. But these tips should get you well on your way. Try them out tonight and see what happens... the results will convert you to arousing your lover's mind each and every time you go to bed... and have her begging for it too...
What Makes a Man a Great Lover?
Tyler is a regular guy who enjoys sex and pleasuring his lovers. When he realised a lot of other guys were having the same problems he'd had in the past, he decided to do something about it. Visit his website to find out how to make love to a woman's mind and body and download his free report "Why You Might Be Bad In Bed... And What To Do About It."
He prides himself on being different and avoiding unnecessary hype and huge promises. While other "sex gurus" promise mind bending multiple orgasms from super ninja g-spot techniques invented by Tibetan monks... he focuses on the power of a woman's mind for creating a powerful sexual response that lasts a lot longer than a night of passion.
If you're ready for the real, straight forward answers about amazing your lover in the bedroom, check out his website for more free information and articles