Do you think your girlfriend is cheating on you? Do you KNOW you have a cheating girlfriend? If so, that is a terrible position to be in. It is a major blow to your ego, the trust is shattered between the two of you, and you won't be able to stop thinking about her with another guy. There are several questions you must ask yourself if you have a cheating girlfriend:
Do I want to try to save this relationship?
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You need to take a hard look at where you are in life and whether this is a situation that can be fixed. You need to figure out if you can trust her again and if it is worth it to try and save the relationship. Perhaps it is time to move on. But don't jump to a decision quite yet, you need to:
Do I understand why she cheated?
Were you taking her for granted? Are you not satisfying her sexual needs? Does she have issues with intimacy? What is the reason she went behind your back and became a cheating girlfriend? Being too drunk is NOT an excuse for cheating, it is just an easy way out of explaining herself. Sit down and talk to her and figure out why she did what she did.
Should I ask for details?
Even though it is tough, you need to know the extent of her cheating. Was it a simple kiss while out at the bar with her friends? Is she having an affair with someone? How far has she taken this? It's never fun to her about someone else being sexual with your girlfriend, but you need to man up and listen to her. Once you hear exactly what is going on, it will make it easier for you to decide what to do.
Does she even want to be with you anymore?
If she is cheating, there is a reason for it. Perhaps you have become a shell of your former self and no longer excite her. If she is that important to you and you want to keep her or get her back, you have to drill down to the reasons she is straying. A cheating girlfriend does not just appear out of the woodwork, unless she was already a psychopath to begin with. There must be underlying reasons for her infidelity. And even though it is tough to think about now, it just may be your fault as well.
Should I try to get back together with her?
A cheating girlfriend may not be worth reconciling with. However, maybe she just simply made a mistake and is willing to make the changes in her life necessary to get back with you. But it is really up to you if you are willing to take her back or not. Perhaps you need to look at yourself in the mirror and see if your behavior was what led to the cheating and if so, are you willing to change? It is up to you to figure out what is right for your own life. But no matter what you decide, you need to start taking control of your own life and stop letting other people walk all over you.
Do You Have a Cheating Girlfriend?
Adam Connor is a relationship expert that specializes in helping men get back together with their ex girlfriends. You can see his work at http://www.bettermansystem.com