Girlfriend Guide - How To Get A Girlfriend in High School

I'm 18, and having just been through high school I know some things about high school girls, and this current generation that many of the people talking to you may or may not know.

First off, let me also say - you're right, girls are not objects, things to "get." But PLEASE, everybody let the terminology GO for a minute here. The only thing I see that has happened is people that have NO experience with real concepts are telling this guy, "just be yourself," and "the girls will come naturally".

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Two items that are often horribly wrong without the right information to back them up, especially with high school aged, young, often immature, girls. Being a pick up artist is NOT about disrespecting women, self gain, or any of that negative stuff many of you are spouting out. I don't mean to sound so defensive, I just want to make my points clear.

Girlfriend Guide - How To Get A Girlfriend in High School

Being a pick up artist is actually kind of a sour term to describe the concept as it stands in most places. A PUA is not just a guy who "picks up girls," or anything like that, there's an entire world to maintaining the relationship. Now am I going to say that all PUA's are great guys? Of course not. That would be like saying that all real, creative artists are good artists, that all doctors are good doctors. The whole thing would just sound a bit strange, and suspicious.

The ways to be yourself are by NOT shoving the things that make you YOU out the window. Never, ever give up your identity and who you are. If you must, exaggerate a tiny bit of what you are to get a girl to smile, but don't sit there and fake anything. Deception, lies, and trickery are not the answer. Here are a few points of advice from me:

Tip 1:

Be Happy and Smile A Lot

If you are not happy here is the brutal, cold truth: no girl is going to want to be with you. After all, would you want to be with a girl who was miserable? This is a common relationship concept. Smile! Smile a lot! Smiling is perhaps one of the most attractive things people do socially, because when another sees you smile, they often register that image with the association of their own smile, which in turn will make them feel happy too. Laughing is also contagious, but again - don't laugh at something you don't think is funny. Just be sure to let yourself laugh when it's appropriate.

Tip 2:

Make every word that comes out of your mouth purposeful and meaningful

Everything you say should have a purpose behind it. Do not start saying things just to break a silence purely for the sake of breaking the silence. Do not say something just because you feel she's not paying enough attention to you and you want to chime in. Let things be, and find ways of tactfully speaking up when there is a reason to do so.

In the case of seduction, the patterns and language techniques give you ample opportunity to have a "strategic" conversation. These concepts not only apply to women, they apply to all aspects of your social life, and will even come in very handy for you in the business world.

Tip 3:

Develop a nonverbal communication and sense of rapport before even speaking to her.

Don't just go up the instant you see a girl - take a moment to study her movement. Match her breathing with your own. Take one of her mannerisms and adopt it as your own for a little bit. Play with this process, and see what works. What this does is builds an unconscious sense of commonality, and allows the conversation to flow both more comfortably, and with a higher level of initial attraction. The process is called "matching and mirroring," or sometimes just "mirroring." Give it a shot, but don't mimic - do not copy every tiny thing she does. Do not make it obvious.

Tip 4:

If the girl does not show interest in getting to know new people, you move on instantly.

This is not true at all with adult women, and the websites you will read on seduction do not take this antisocial, or socially retarded behavior into account. But this is something that with high school girls and even young college girls, you may encounter. Sometimes the most gorgeous girls you will ever meet are the ones that have had a close knit circle of friends that they NEVER leave for years - and you're not in it.

If she gives you a look that is irritated or "who are YOU" type expression, just say, "Nice meeting you," and walk away. If you want, you can stay and try to recover, but I'll warn you right now, especially if she is around friends, they'll find a way to push you out quickly. It's a battle you likely can't win.

Most of the "popular" girls in high school are actually a bit socially retarded. And I'm not kidding. You THINK they are "popular" because they're the ones that everyone knows about, but the reasons everyone knows about them may not be their nature. More likely, it's their looks, their actions at some party where they were acting stupid, their cruelty, or the guys they've dated. You can go after them if you like, but it's hit-or-miss.

The girls that I would go after if I were you are the ones that are often very close to by themselves, or totally by themselves at lunch - they will be more open to you than most of the ones that are with their little clique of friends.

While I know your aim is not to be "cool," in the common high school sense of the word, I can tell you something else. Having a girlfriend, in the world of high school (I don't know why, don't ask), DOES increase your level of popularity. And you know what? It doesn't even matter who the girl is, most of the time.

Tip 5:

Don't ever settle for anything less than everything you dream about.

Don't date a girl who has a great personality, but you don't find attractive. And of course, don't go out with a gorgeous girl who you absolutely hate on the inside. Find the WONDERFUL girls and spend as much time pursuing them as you please. Maybe they're the ones with a great reputation, maybe they're not. But if you date a girl who is wonderful in your view, she's likely to be wonderful in the view of others and the view of your friends. Be the first to be with her, and be the first to talk to her.

When you are already in a relationship, do not compromise.

When you're in a relationship, do not make her change anything, and do not let her make YOU change anything you don't want to about yourself. If she doesn't like the clothes you wear, but YOU do, don't let her take you to the mall and give you a make over.

Girlfriend Guide - How To Get A Girlfriend in High School

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How to Improve Discipline in Your Public High School Classroom

How to Work With Security and Administration to Properly Discipline Students

I know that some days I feel more like a security guard than a teacher. It seems that in between class I'm pulling kids apart who are trying to beat each other up, and in class I'm dealing more with behavior than Beowulf. But there are some common sense strategies you can employ that I promise will get you a better reaction from Administration and Security, so that the students you send to the office stay there, and you can focus on your class.

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This is your mission, should you choose to accept it: Get to know every member of the Security Staff by name. Don't be sly about it. On your first teacher workday, or the first day of school, walk straight up to them, shake their hand, introduce yourself, and strike up a conversation. Ask them about their family, where they live. I don't care what you talk about, just make sure that after a couple days of this, they remember your name, and know which classroom is yours. The biggest reason I want you to get to know the Security Staff is because it will make you're job a lot easier. This is some of the best advice I can give, and that is why it is one of my first posts.

As the weeks go by, get in the habit of saying hi to them, and stopping for thirty seconds to ask them about their new girlfriend. Then, on days when you need them, stop by and give them a heads up that your hardest class is coming up, and ask them to drop by and help you get the kids in the door. Heck, invite them in your classroom at the beginning of class if you have a hard time getting the kids to be quiet (by the way, I will have another post soon about how to start class in the coming weeks). Just get in the habit of making friends with security, and while you're at it, you better get to know the Assistant Principal in charge of discipline too.

Your relationships with the people in charge of discipline will determine how effectively you are able to discipline your students in the classroom. If your school is like mine, many teachers, especially new teachers, don't feel like they have anywhere to send the bad kids. They send them out, and they seem to come right back ten minutes later. Teachers feel that the students aren't even being punished when they're sent to the office. Eventually, they become frustrated with the entire process, and wonder what exactly it is the security guards and Assistant Principal are even doing in the office. But that is why I have to ask - why wonder? I know exactly what is going on in the office, and because of this, I am a part of the discipline process. I am not just someone who expects others to deal with the students exactly how I expect them to, as if they can read my mind.

That is why you need to get to know these people - so that you know exactly what they are doing with the students you are sending them.

Let me tell you something. Even in my first year of teaching, I NEVER had problems disciplining students. EVER. I was never frustrated by the administration's response to a referral I wrote, and I never got kids sent back to my class that same day. In fact, when teachers tell me this is happening, I am puzzled, and I think I know why this is happening.

These are some basic rules you must follow when sending a kid to the office:

• MAKE SURE THEY GO! Good lord, half of the students coming back to your room ten minutes later didn't even go to the office. They just came back with a story that the Assistant Principal sent them back, and teachers believe them!
• Try to have a security guard escort them to the office. This makes sure they get there and stay there. I know this is not always possible, but that is why you make friends with the security staff. My security guard Dean knows me by name, and even knows that I go to Lake Tahoe some weekends to play craps. When I ask him to come to my classroom, he comes. When he hears it over the walkie-talkie, he comes quicker.
• Learn how to write referrals. Ask the Assistant Principal in charge of discipline what he or she is looking for in a referral. Depending on what you write, the student may be suspended for three days, or sent back to class while the referral ends up in the AP's wastepaper basket. Here's the thing about referrals. Be hard on them. Don't beat around the bush. If the student directed an F-bomb at you, write his exact words. Write: "Michael yelled 'Fuck You' directly at me, the instructor. I feel this to be a direct threat to my safety." I'm serious, if you feel threatened write it. You are not doing anyone a favor, especially not the student, by letting them get away with that kind of behavior. They need to know how serious it is. End the referral suggesting suspension, if that is what you feel the appropriate punishment should be.
• Follow Up. After school, go talk to your AP about that particular student. Tell them the whole story, all the stuff you couldn't fit on the referral. Make sure they understand how serious the situation is. Trust me, if you want to ensure a student is properly reprimanded, you need to do this stuff.

Like I said, I've never had a kid come back to class the same day I sent them out. When I send them out, I send them out right away if I can't get security, and I make sure they know I will be calling the AP's office in two minutes to make sure they got there. I send another student, or a senior assistant, with the referral afterwords. NEVER write the referral while the offending student is waiting, and NEVER send the actual referral with the student. Get them out of class right away, and patiently write the referral and send it down after them.

If you follow this advice, I promise you a better response from Administration and Security. We all know there are some kids who just can't be in class some days. It is a reality of our job and their lives. Knowing how to get these students out of your classroom and into the proper hands is an art that you need to master. If you do, it will make your job that much easier, and you will find yourself being more of a teacher in your classroom, and less of a security guard.

How to Improve Discipline in Your Public High School Classroom

Matt Amaral is the founder of teach4real.com, a website for real teachers in our toughest schools. Matt is a writer and high school English teacher from the San Francisco Bay Area. He received his undergraduate degree in English Literature from the University of California at Davis and an MFA in Creative Writing from National University. You can read his work in the current Winter 2010 issues of The Dirty Napkin, Diverse Voices Quarterly, Eclectic Flash, Bird's Eye ReView, TravelMag, Escape From America Magazine and InTravel Magazine.

Matt is a fellow of AmeriCorps TEAMS (Teacher Education for the Advancement of a Multicultural Society). He teaches both Puente and AVID classes, which are programs intended to help underrepresented students get to college. He has taught all high school grade levels and abilities, and is known to dive into fights between students, even though his wife doesn't want him to.

Girlfriend Guide - How To Get A Girlfriend in High School

I'm 18, and having just been through high school I know some things about high school girls, and this current generation that many of the people talking to you may or may not know.

First off, let me also say - you're right, girls are not objects, things to "get." But PLEASE, everybody let the terminology GO for a minute here. The only thing I see that has happened is people that have NO experience with real concepts are telling this guy, "just be yourself," and "the girls will come naturally".

\"how To Get A Girlfriend\"

Two items that are often horribly wrong without the right information to back them up, especially with high school aged, young, often immature, girls. Being a pick up artist is NOT about disrespecting women, self gain, or any of that negative stuff many of you are spouting out. I don't mean to sound so defensive, I just want to make my points clear.

Being a pick up artist is actually kind of a sour term to describe the concept as it stands in most places. A PUA is not just a guy who "picks up girls," or anything like that, there's an entire world to maintaining the relationship. Now am I going to say that all PUA's are great guys? Of course not. That would be like saying that all real, creative artists are good artists, that all doctors are good doctors. The whole thing would just sound a bit strange, and suspicious.

The ways to be yourself are by NOT shoving the things that make you YOU out the window. Never, ever give up your identity and who you are. If you must, exaggerate a tiny bit of what you are to get a girl to smile, but don't sit there and fake anything. Deception, lies, and trickery are not the answer. Here are a few points of advice from me:

Tip 1:

Be Happy and Smile A Lot

If you are not happy here is the brutal, cold truth: no girl is going to want to be with you. After all, would you want to be with a girl who was miserable? This is a common relationship concept. Smile! Smile a lot! Smiling is perhaps one of the most attractive things people do socially, because when another sees you smile, they often register that image with the association of their own smile, which in turn will make them feel happy too. Laughing is also contagious, but again - don't laugh at something you don't think is funny. Just be sure to let yourself laugh when it's appropriate.

Tip 2:

Make every word that comes out of your mouth purposeful and meaningful

Everything you say should have a purpose behind it. Do not start saying things just to break a silence purely for the sake of breaking the silence. Do not say something just because you feel she's not paying enough attention to you and you want to chime in. Let things be, and find ways of tactfully speaking up when there is a reason to do so.

In the case of seduction, the patterns and language techniques give you ample opportunity to have a "strategic" conversation. These concepts not only apply to women, they apply to all aspects of your social life, and will even come in very handy for you in the business world.

Tip 3:

Develop a nonverbal communication and sense of rapport before even speaking to her.

Don't just go up the instant you see a girl - take a moment to study her movement. Match her breathing with your own. Take one of her mannerisms and adopt it as your own for a little bit. Play with this process, and see what works. What this does is builds an unconscious sense of commonality, and allows the conversation to flow both more comfortably, and with a higher level of initial attraction. The process is called "matching and mirroring," or sometimes just "mirroring." Give it a shot, but don't mimic - do not copy every tiny thing she does. Do not make it obvious.

Tip 4:

If the girl does not show interest in getting to know new people, you move on instantly.

This is not true at all with adult women, and the websites you will read on seduction do not take this antisocial, or socially retarded behavior into account. But this is something that with high school girls and even young college girls, you may encounter. Sometimes the most gorgeous girls you will ever meet are the ones that have had a close knit circle of friends that they NEVER leave for years - and you're not in it.

If she gives you a look that is irritated or "who are YOU" type expression, just say, "Nice meeting you," and walk away. If you want, you can stay and try to recover, but I'll warn you right now, especially if she is around friends, they'll find a way to push you out quickly. It's a battle you likely can't win.

Most of the "popular" girls in high school are actually a bit socially retarded. And I'm not kidding. You THINK they are "popular" because they're the ones that everyone knows about, but the reasons everyone knows about them may not be their nature. More likely, it's their looks, their actions at some party where they were acting stupid, their cruelty, or the guys they've dated. You can go after them if you like, but it's hit-or-miss.

The girls that I would go after if I were you are the ones that are often very close to by themselves, or totally by themselves at lunch - they will be more open to you than most of the ones that are with their little clique of friends.

While I know your aim is not to be "cool," in the common high school sense of the word, I can tell you something else. Having a girlfriend, in the world of high school (I don't know why, don't ask), DOES increase your level of popularity. And you know what? It doesn't even matter who the girl is, most of the time.

Tip 5:

Don't ever settle for anything less than everything you dream about.

Don't date a girl who has a great personality, but you don't find attractive. And of course, don't go out with a gorgeous girl who you absolutely hate on the inside. Find the WONDERFUL girls and spend as much time pursuing them as you please. Maybe they're the ones with a great reputation, maybe they're not. But if you date a girl who is wonderful in your view, she's likely to be wonderful in the view of others and the view of your friends. Be the first to be with her, and be the first to talk to her.

When you are already in a relationship, do not compromise.

When you're in a relationship, do not make her change anything, and do not let her make YOU change anything you don't want to about yourself. If she doesn't like the clothes you wear, but YOU do, don't let her take you to the mall and give you a make over.

Girlfriend Guide - How To Get A Girlfriend in High School

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